When to get help

Asking for help is sometimes the hardest thing you can do. Many people like myself try and solve everything by myself. For most things, this may work out. For mental health, this is not always the case. The strongest people in life still need help sometimes. Asking for help when in a mental crisis is the furthest thing from being so called “soft”. I see too often people don’t seek help and they just dig their hole even deeper. There are many ways you can reach. If you don’t feel comfortable with your family, then you can get therapy. For example, the University offers free services to students. I know a few people that have used this and found great success. According to Men’s health org: Men are-

  • Three times as many men as women die by suicide.
  • Men aged 40-49 have the highest suicide rates in the UK.
  • Men report lower levels of life satisfaction than women according to the Government’s national wellbeing survey.

Men are prone to bear more from depression and have much higher suicide rates than women. Men in society are supposed to be strong and not depend on anyone for help. More services need to be provided for Males with these high of suicide rates.

Who Should be in your life?

Throughout our life, we meet thousands of people. The first is your family, then school, work, and life events. Understanding what kind of people are good in your life may not always be a crystal clear answer. Many people I thought were good in my life we a burden. Every person you meet is there for a reason. They are either a lesson or a blessing. Some people will want you to do well and be a great person for you in life. Then there are other that do the opposite and teaches you what not to look for. To distinguish this in a person will be hard at first. Many may treat you as amazing in the beginning but backstab you in the future. Being patient will establish relationships with people. Having a handful of friends is most of the time better than having 100 fake ones. Cherish the people that are good to you. We don’t tell the ones who love us thank you enough. Each day is a blessing! It’s also important to forgive the ones who have done you wrong. As cutting them off is most of the time the best choice, forgiving them will only let your mind at ease. This also means it’s important to not forget their actions as well. These are the most important lessons I learned from this process. Take these with you, and understand what it means to not only have someone good in your life but to be good in others’ lives as well. 

Accepting the Unexpected

This Blog directly relates to accepting the things in life you cannot control. Often we will be faced with situations that are out of our control. Instead of trying to fight it or forget it, just accept it. If you cannot control the situation, there is no point in fighting it. It’s almost like trying to light a fire with water, it won’t work. It’s almost impossible at times, but the stress endured is simply not worth it. I’m not saying putting in effort with situations will always leave you stray but worrying about something out of your control will almost always negatively affect you. The next portion of this blog will be letting life flow. Everything in life happens for a reason, the good and the bad. You may not understand it when it happens to you, but long term everything will make sense. I’ve established this mindset in my life over the last few years. I cannot be more thankful for this mindset. I have never felt freer and more content with life regardless of what happens with the day. Live life every day like it’s the last. I heard this quote that will help a lot of people’s mindsets. It reads, “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called present.” This quote is from the Disney movie: Kung Fu Panda. Every day is truly a gift. Some people who went to sleep last night expected to wake up this morning and didn’t. Do not take anything for granted in life. 

Understanding What life is about :)

This Blog post is not just finding what makes you happy, but the actual reason why it makes you happy. So often, people see others’ approval to tend to their source of happiness. This often results in a short-term sense of happiness but is flooded with an empty hole. Society puts a lot of pressure on us to not act differently or stray away from the pack so to speak. I think society wouldn’t even be a thing without the different ones. Whether you are one with the herd, or the one leading the herd, don’t let anyone dictate what you enjoy. There is a fine line if someone were to enjoy something dangerous or harmful, but the summarization of everyone’s moments of happiness should always be acceptable. When you are growing up, whether you are in high school or middle school, don’t always walk in the line that was made for you. In other words, explore different hobbies and mindsets. Someone else’s dream is most likely not aligned with yours. Separate yourself if needed and find what you think will make life just a little bit better. 

Cecelia Ahern Quote: “That's what life is about: People come and go.”