Have Things Changed for the Better?
Have Things Changed for the Better?
After watching The Facebook Dilemma Parts I and II, along with the 60 Minutes interview with the former Facebook executive, I began to see how deeply this platform has shaped the way people connect, communicate, and even understand themselves. The videos share one core message: Facebook did not invent loneliness; it simply revealed and magnified something that was already part of our society. The woman from the 60 Minutes interview, who worked for Facebook for seven years, gave insight into how the company grew beyond its intentions and lost control of the consequences. When I think about it, the problem is not Facebook itself, but the way humans use it, and the values we have allowed to fade while technology advanced.
Were We Lonely Before Facebook?
Yes, in my opinion, we were. Every generation faces its own kind of isolation, shaped by the time it lives in. The late 1990s and early 2000s brought major changes, economic recession, longer work hours, and a constant race to keep up. Families began to spend less time together because everyone was working harder just to survive. When Facebook appeared, it didn’t create loneliness; it simply gave us a mirror that reflected how disconnected we already were. Social media became the shortcut to feeling seen and connected, but in reality, it often left people emptier than before.
The Double-Edged Sword of Connection
Some say Facebook brings people together, and for many; it truly does. It helps families and friends stay connected across states and countries. Businesses use it to grow and reach new clients. Even community groups and schools use it to share information. For those reasons, I do not believe Facebook is evil. It is a tool. Like any powerful tool, it can be used for good or harm.
Personally, I do not use Facebook because I want to; I use it because I have to. I do not scroll through it for fun or post updates about my life. I use it to check on businesses, report complaints, or find important information such as store hours or contact details. It is useful, yes, but it is not personal. For me, Facebook feels more like a public utility than a social gathering space.
That is what I mean when I compare Facebook to a gun. The gun itself does not hurt anyone; it is the person holding it, their intent, and their carelessness that determine what happens. People have tried to regulate and ban guns for decades, yet the real issue is not the tool; it is the respect and responsibility people have toward it. The same applies to Facebook and every other online platform. Without awareness and discipline, people end up hurting themselves and others emotionally, mentally, or even socially.
What the 60 Minutes Report Revealed
The Facebook executive interviewed on 60 Minutes described how the company’s growth became uncontrollable. She spoke about algorithms, manipulation, and profit-driven decisions that put engagement above mental health. But I could not help noticing the contradiction: even though she still uses Facebook to communicate with family. She claimed it is the only way she can reach her grandmother, yet that excuse does not fully convince me. There are so many other ways to stay in touch: phones, emails, video calls, and dozens of other apps. If Facebook were truly as harmful as she says, wouldn’t she choose another option?
That is part of what frustrates me about the discussion surrounding Facebook. Many people criticize it, but few take real steps to reduce their use of it. They stay because it is convenient, because it is where everyone else is, or because they do not want to lose their social circle. That is human nature, but it also shows our dependency. It is not just about Facebook; it is about how much control we have given to technology.
The Question of Responsibility
Every time I hear about young people suffering from social media pressure, I cannot help but wonder: where were the parents? Depression, anxiety, and self-harm do not appear overnight. They build up slowly, often because of isolation, lack of supervision, or neglect. Parents cannot rely on Facebook to raise their children, yet many do. They expect the internet to entertain, educate, and monitor their kids, then blame the platforms when something goes wrong.
It is easy to say, “Facebook made my child sad,” but harder to ask, “Was I paying attention?” Social media may amplify pain, but it does not plant the first seed. That is why awareness and guidance are so important. The internet is not a toy, and Facebook is not a babysitter. Just like you would not go kayaking without knowing how to paddle or walk a mountain trail without the right shoes, you should not use powerful technology without understanding its risks. Awareness is the life jacket we all need when navigating the online world.
How Relevant Are the Facebook Dilemmas Today?
Even though the original Facebook Dilemma documentaries came out years ago, their message is still relevant today, maybe even more. Facebook has changed its name to Meta, the interface looks different, and people have moved on to Instagram, TikTok, and other apps, but the same patterns remain. The platforms might evolve, but the problems do not.
We still see misinformation spreading faster than truth, people comparing their lives to unrealistic images, and attention spans shrinking. What has changed is that now it is not just Facebook; it is the entire internet. Privacy does not really exist anymore; it is an illusion. Whether it is a camera on a phone, a smart TV, or even a smartwatch, someone is always collecting data. Even just people eavesdropping, gossip is still a thing. What used to feel like connection now often feels like surveillance.
My Own Choices and Reflections
I have learned to be careful about my time online. I limit my use of social media because I do not want to fall into the trap of comparing my life to others or wasting hours scrolling through meaningless posts. I have already seen how toxic it can get. When I had Instagram, I could see why people, especially young ones, feel pressured to look or live a certain way. It is exhausting and fake. So, I stepped away and closed that account.
Now, I use the internet with purpose. I research, study, and communicate responsibly. I am not perfect, but I try to be aware of what I am consuming and how it affects me. That is what I wish more people did, to take accountability instead of blaming technology for every outcome. Facebook did not pull a trigger or force anyone to act. It is people, families, and societies that shape what these platforms become.
Conclusion
So, is Facebook making us lonely? Maybe a little, but not on its own. We were already lonely, already disconnected, already too busy chasing money, success, or distractions to look at each other in the eyes. Facebook just exposed it, gave it a stage, and monetized it.
The real problem is not Facebook or Zuckerberg or the algorithms, it is us. We created these systems, we use them every day, and we decide how much power they have over us. If something hurts us, we have the choice to step away. Just like I have learned to distance myself from toxic people or environments, I have learned to manage my digital life, too. It took time but it was worth it.
Technology will keep evolving, and platforms will come and go. But loneliness and connections will always depend on one thing, how much we value real human contact over digital approval. In the end, that is something no app can fix, not even Facebook.
Works Cited Frontline. The Facebook Dilemma, Part One. Directed by James Jacoby, PBS Frontline, 29 Oct. 2018. Frontline. The Facebook Dilemma, Part Two. Directed by James Jacoby, PBS Frontline, 30 Oct. 2018. “Facebook Whistleblower Frances Haugen: The 60 Minutes Interview.” 60 Minutes, produced by Scott Pelley, CBS News, 3 Oct. 2021.