{"id":45,"date":"2020-02-13T22:00:00","date_gmt":"2020-02-13T22:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/?p=45"},"modified":"2020-04-09T17:22:56","modified_gmt":"2020-04-09T17:22:56","slug":"thoughts-on-being-a-bridal-consultant","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/2020\/02\/13\/thoughts-on-being-a-bridal-consultant\/","title":{"rendered":"Thoughts On Being A Bridal Consultant"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Taking a quick look into what a day of a bridal consultant really looks like.<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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When I tell people what I do for a living, there are always a lot of questions. “Do you have a lot of bridezillas?” “Does anyone pick really ugly dresses?” “Is it just like say yes to the dress?”<\/em> Some questions are funny and others silly, but most people don’t realize what TV portrays isn’t accurate. It looks like a glamorous job, but it actually hard. The days are long (usually about 10 hours), and are physically draining. The story I work at is three stories, with no elevators so I get about 15,000 steps in one day. Some dresses also weigh upwards of 35 pounds so you better be strong to lift them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

While being physically draining, it is also emotionally draining too. One aspect that makes it difficult is family dynamics. I have often found myself being a counselor in an appointment, mediating a daughter’s and mother’s rocky relationship. It amazes me how something as simple as a look can shut a person down. There is a huge learning curve in understanding people’s emotional and mental state and being able to connect the two. When I first started my job I never considered this aspect, and it has only helped me be able to read and understand people better. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The hardest aspect to deal with is the pressure to make a sale. At some bridal stores, consultants work on commission only. So knowing your only income is solely dependent on your sale, can give you tunnel vision. I’m lucky to work at a store where I have a base salary as well as a commission pay, upper management always pushes sales. Every day I am fully aware that the success of the store and my coworkers relies on my ability to bring in money. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What has helped my success is putting that aside and remembering what this means to my brides. These women has dreamed about this for their whole lives, and if I’m able to take myself out of the equation it reminds myself why I love what I do. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Taking a quick look into what a day of a bridal consultant really looks like. When I tell people what I do for a living, there are always a lot of questions. “Do you have a lot of bridezillas?” “Does anyone pick really ugly dresses?” “Is it just like say yes to the dress?” Some questions are funny and others silly, but most people don’t realize what TV portrays isn’t accurate. It looks like a glamorous job, but it actually hard. The days are long (usually about 10 hours), and are physically draining. The story I work at is three stories, with no elevators so I get about 15,000 steps in one day. Some dresses also weigh upwards of 35 pounds so you better be strong to lift them. While being physically draining, it is also emotionally draining too. One aspect that makes it difficult is family dynamics. I have often found myself being a counselor in an appointment, mediating a daughter’s and mother’s rocky relationship. It amazes me how something as simple as a look can shut a person down. There is a huge learning curve in understanding people’s emotional and mental state and being able to connect the two. When I first started my job I never considered this aspect, and it has only helped me be able to read and understand people better. The hardest aspect to deal with is the pressure to make a sale. At some bridal stores, consultants work on commission only. So knowing your only income is solely dependent on your sale, can give you tunnel vision. I’m lucky to work at a store where I have a base salary as well as a commission pay, upper management always pushes sales. Every day I am fully aware that the success of the store and my coworkers relies on my ability to bring in money. What has helped my success is putting that aside and remembering what this means to my brides. These women has dreamed about this for their whole lives, and if I’m able to take myself out of the equation it reminds myself why I love what I do.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8109,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":true,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1195487],"tags":[1235373,2185],"class_list":["post-45","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-pre-wedding","tag-bridal","tag-shopping"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8109"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":100,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45\/revisions\/100"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.uww.edu\/weddingsmadeeasy\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}