The Reality…
All this time I have been talking about what you and your partner can do to keep the relationship alive and suggesting things to keep the both of you happy in your situation. And I hope that all of those that I have talked about have been able to work for you.
However, I think it’s time to be real about this. Long distance relationships are hard and things will get in the way of the relationship. Time and distance are the true realities of what is really going on. No matter what you try and do to alleviate the pain and hardships, they won’t go away. They are both things that at some point in time we all have to deal with and take head on. I’m going to be honest with you (and I’m sure you already know this) but it is going to be hard - more than likely, the hardest thing about it all. There will probably be a lot of tears, but at the end of the day you are going to be fine! This will only make you stronger as a person and will probably make the relationship more withstanding. All of this is kind of like that old quote, “Don’t cry over spilled milk”. I know that maybe sounds kind of harsh but really this is kind of the same situation. It’s only a minor mishap in life and within “2 minutes” it will be all cleaned up and life will go on. That’s what you need to do – let the milk spill, but then pull yourself together. Time and distance are taxing things but they are the true actualities of long distance relationships. And no matter what, they are the things that we have to deal with and in contrary to what you may think now you are a strong person and will grow past it.
–Much love
“And ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”
