1500 Miles

Instead of looking back on what has already happened look to what the future holds and can bring for the both of you. Starting to look down the road ahead takes your mind off the pain and will remind you of what is really important, now, at this point in your relationship.

Start making plans for that next trip to see each other or make plans to meet somewhere for vacation. Not only does planning a big trip like that make you get excited for when you get to see him/her, but you will be planning so much for the trip that you will be so busy. So busy, that the time will just fly right by! Make a countdown calendar to make things more exciting!

Or keep the future simple – talk about what the next step might be for the both of you. Getting through a long distance relationship is a huge step in a relationship and will definitely transform you, your partner and the relationship into new and radically changed beings. Your relationship will take on a new life and make you realize unknowingly that you are in a different place. You both are ready to move onto that next step, so why not talk about it?! I’m sure you both have been thinking about it for awhile now and just haven’t been strong enough to say anything because you’re being shy or may feel embarrassed to bring it up. But, don’t!! Believe me, if anything you will feel better!

Figuring out what’s coming up next will give you an immediate rush of happiness because you’re looking forward and wishing that it could all happen now. So talk about it, plan it out and get it all in the works!

–Much love!

“Missing someone gets easier everyday because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will.”

After my last blog entry, which was hopefully an invigorating and uplifting one for you, I hope that you feel on top of the world and are hopeful in your future planned adventures.

In order to start off on the right foot, why don’t you start your day by sipping on a good cup of Joe with a good friend or family member. Oh yeah…remember those people?! I know how easily it is to forget those good friends that you would always share a good laugh with or those special people in your family that you can always count on (believe me – I’ve done it and its so easily to do).

Getting back to those days before you and your special someone got together can be hard because you were so used to always being with them, but it can be done. The relationships with family and friends may have become a bit weak because of all the lost memories and experiences, but it can be put back together.

Like I said before, go out and get a cup of coffee or hot tea with a friend and just talk. Talk about the things going on in their life, how your life is going and make plans to do it again or to do something else. It may be a bit akward getting back into your old ways with them, but let time do its work. If your friendship was that good with that person then you will be right back where you guys were before. Just get out and have fun with those you used to. If you haven’t been to those family dinner’s on Sunday’s in awhile, make a point to do so. Not only will you get out of the apartment but you’ll get a little TLC from the fam.

Just getting out and being around the old crowd will not only repair old relationships, but get you back to that “Social Butterfly” status you were once at. Yes you may feel a bit guilty because YOU are having fun without him or her, but don’t feel that way. You need to get on with your life and get over that he/she is gone. Just because you are alone now doesn’t mean that you have to succumb to the lonliness. Get out, have fun and be a social butterful like you always have been!

–Much love to you!

“If God is the DJ, then Life is the dance floor; Love is the rhythm, and You are the music.”

All this time I have been talking about what you and your partner can do to keep the relationship alive and suggesting things to keep the both of you happy in your situation. And I hope that all of those that I have talked about have been able to work for you.

However, I think it’s time to be real about this. Long distance relationships are hard and things will get in the way of the relationship. Time and distance are the true realities of what is really going on. No matter what you try and do to alleviate the pain and hardships, they won’t go away. They are both things that at some point in time we all have to deal with and take head on. I’m going to be honest with you (and I’m sure you already know this) but it is going to be hard - more than likely, the hardest thing about it all. There will probably be a lot of tears, but at the end of the day you are going to be fine! This will only make you stronger as a person and will probably make the relationship more withstanding. All of this is kind of like that old quote, “Don’t cry over spilled milk”. I know that maybe sounds kind of harsh but really this is kind of the same situation. It’s only a minor mishap in life and within “2 minutes” it will be all cleaned up and life will go on. That’s what you need to do – let the milk spill, but then pull yourself together. Time and distance are taxing things but they are the true actualities of long distance relationships. And no matter what, they are the things that we have to deal with and in contrary to what you may think now you are a strong person and will grow past it.

–Much love

“And ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”

I hope that little pep talk in my last blog really helped not only you but also your special someone far away.

Patience and encouragement are what will help to keep you on the path to a healthy relationship and at the end of the day your love and happiness will prevail. Many tests of your relationship will come about throughout the time of separation. I’m sure you can already assume what I’m talking about. Whether it is another person trying to come between you and your significant other or one stupid night of drinking or even just the difficulty of being alone and not constantly surrounded by your other person. But no matter what love will prevail. If your relationship is strong enough with that other person you will be able to get through it. Because after all, look at what you guys have already overcome! You should be proud of yourselves just for being able to leave one another and become “independent” people again. Just morphing back into that “single” life again can take quite a getting used to.

Love will prevail! Love will prevail! That’s what you need to tell yourself every time that you feel there is a problem or if you feel like there’s something not quite right between the both of you. Communication is a big part of this! If you talk things out in a calm matter more things will get accomplished and in the end you will both be better for it. Working through things is what will probably make you love one another more and like I said before, will make your relationship a better one for it!

So remember, “Love will prevail! Love will prevail!”

–Much love to you all!

“Love is a noble act of self-giving, offering trust, faith, and loyalty. The more you love, the more you lose a part of yourself, yet you don’t become less of who you are; you end up being complete with your loved ones.”