1500 Miles

As a few months pass and your loved one is gone you start becoming really antsy and impatient. You so badly want to see him or her and you become kind of whiney, an annoying kind of whiney. The other person knows that you’re feeling the distance and its starting to really take its toll on you. You want to vent for your feelings to the other person, but whatever you do…DON’T! Not only will this cause more stress on the other person but it just makes everything harder on the both of you.

Ever heard the saying “patience is a virtue”? Well you need to definitely be practicing this. Whatever you need to do to keep your mind off of the distance, do it. Keeping yourself busy is key to this! Take up some kind of hobby or spend more time with your friends and family.

Encouragement for your loved one can also help keep things sane in your relationship. Giving the support that he or she needs can really help to keep stress out of the relationship. Even though you may think that they don’t need any encouragement because they left you and they’re pursuing their dreams is definitely not true. It is just as hard on them as it is on you. Encouragement in whatever they are doing, whether it is in their career or the reason why they moved away, will help not only them but you.

–Much love to you all

“I may not get to see you as often as I like. I may not get to hold you in my arms all through the night. But deep in my heart I truly know, you’re the one that I love, and I can’t let you go.”

So, I’ve been thinking that the last few blogs has all been about what you can do for the other person. And I think its time to do a little something for yourself right?! Everyone needs a little “R and R” in someway to unwind, clear the head of all the emotions that have been streaming through you since the absence and just try to relax.

When I think of having a bit of R and R there is definitely one thing that comes to mind right away, MASSAGE!! What better way to clear your head and relieve all the stress on your body. It’s a great way to escape from everything. Not only will you feel less tense, but it could also help you destress.

A journal or some sort of diary could be a great way to vent and clear your head too. Letting out your emotions and writing down all your thoughts is an easy and private way to relax. It’s like having that friend that you can tell anything to but you know they won’t tell anyone.

If money is an issue right now (which for a lot of us it is right now) here is a cheaper way to let off some steam – Take a walk, be outside, be one with nature. Taking a walk down by the lake or on a path through the woods can be very relaxing. The beauty of nature or the sound of the birds will help you relax. Seeing the simplicity of what nature has to offer can help to clear your mind.

Relaxation is the main focus right now! A little “R and R” is what you need

Much love—

There is no long distance about love; it always finds a way to bring hearts together, no matter how many miles are between them.

I hope you took my advice and used those phones to their full potential over the week. Like I said, they can be a big help! Definitely the number one way of staying connected.

Onto another stepping stone…snail mail! I know, I know this is like something out of “Pride and Prejudice” or even a little old school, but its kind of fun! Writing letters does take up a lot of time but it gives you something to look forward to every week. Start a conversation with him or her about things that you usually don’t talk about on a regular basis or may even feel a little uncomfortable about talking to them over the phone about. Don’t just ask the basic questions like, “How is everything going?” or “Do you really like it where you are?”, instead ask more thoughtful or meaningful questions. Something like (depending on how serious you and he/she are in your relationship), “Where do you see yourself or us in 10 years?” or other things of that matter. Or you may even get a little creative and write a poem or a song for them.

Another thing is to send a cute card every once in awhile. A “just saying Hi” or a simple “missing you” card can brighten up their day and remind them just how much you care and are thinking about them.

The last thing that you could do is send him/her something that you made especially for them. For example, put together a photo album of you as a couple or send their favorite candy to them. That way, with the photo album, they to have something to look at when they might be having one of those “bad” days.

If you do one or all of these things, that someone special will know just how much you care. They’ll see that you took the time out to put together something special and send them. You didn’t do it through the convenient text message or e-mail; you really sat down and thought about what you could do.

So be patient and try out the “perks” of snail mail!

Much love to you all –

At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.
-Plato

Okay so like I told everyone before, I have been through all of the stages of having your other half miles and miles away from you. I didn’t think that there was going to be any way that we could be together with us not being able to see each other, actually face to face. But, I was totally wrong!

I think the first thing that we did to stay keep everything lively, was to definitely make sure that we both had text messaging and picture phones! Those help sooo incredibly much — more than you really think. The casual “I love you” or “Just thinking about you” helped in those little moments when you’re under total distress and wondering if he or she is thinking about you. I think the text messages emotionally connected us more than actually hearing him say it on the phone. Another great thing about text messaging (if you have this feature) is that you can save them and read them later. I know I definitely did this! Whenever I’m really missing him I open up the saved “sweet and special” ones and re-read them to help me get through my “bad days”. Ya know, those days when you just want to spend the day with them or just be able to hold their hand. That little feature can definitely help you with that!

Everyone has definitely heard the saying, “A picture is worth a thousand words”. This I have learned to be so true. I’m sure you can only imagine the many things that you can send from phone to phone. And in my opinion, take full advantage!!! My boyfriend and I would definitely agree to that. Just a little picture of you smiling can make his or her day go so much better. Try the picture phone….get a little creative!

Much love to you all –

Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
— Henry Louis Mencken